Curiosity & Being Naked in Nature – Layndare Origin Story Part 1

Written by

Alina

The questions we get the most everywhere are:
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
Whose idea was it?
What are you guys actually into?

Like most things with us, there wasn’t a single moment where we flipped a switch. It was more like a trail we wandered down together, discovering little pieces of ourselves along the way.

So here’s our story — Part 1.

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Before anything else, there was simply being nude.

At this point in 2014, we had been together for just over a year, and we were each other’s first lovers. Yes… we took each other’s virginities. 🤭

Both of us came from socially conservative backgrounds, so even small things felt like big steps for me. Wearing short sleeves was once a milestone… let alone getting naked in front of strangers.

We started exploring nude recreation, visiting hot springs and nude beaches. At the time, this felt surprisingly new and a little daring. What we discovered, though, was that nudity itself wasn’t necessarily sexual. It felt freeing, playful, and oddly grounding.

But it also revealed something about us.

We both loved the feeling of being just a little bit naughty in beautiful places.

Around this time, Lay began posting anonymously on Reddit. The posts often focused on my bare feet and my nude body in nature. For him, it was about celebrating my body and sensuality.

For both of us, it was mostly appreciation, playfulness, and the quiet thrill of sharing a private side of our lives with strangers on the internet.

Looking back, this phase was incredibly important. It helped us figure out what we enjoyed both sexually and non-sexually, and it opened the door for deeper conversations about desire, curiosity, and boundaries.

From the very beginning, Lay enjoyed sharing photos of me and receiving feedback from other pleasure-seekers. In those moments in front of the camera, I wasn’t really thinking about the photos themselves. I was looking past the lens and straight into Lay’s eyes.

That was how I slowly learned to be sexually vulnerable.

If I looked at the photos of myself, my instinct was always to criticize something about my body. Lay, on the other hand, would get almost protective, defending his choice of a beautiful partner and what he called his “art.”

Through that dynamic, my confidence started to grow dramatically.

I was never and will never be a traditional “model.” The photos he captured weren’t about perfection for anyone else but him. They were simply reflections of how I looked at him in those moments.

During this time we also started recognizing something about our dynamic. Lay found excitement in sharing me visually, both online and in person.

This was our first glimpse into what we later learned was his candaulism.

And for me, stepping outside my comfort zone to please him awakened something too: my submission.

2016: First Steps into the Lifestyle

By 2016 we were ready to dip our toes into something a little more intentional.

We joined Feeld, which at the time felt like stepping into an entirely different universe.

For me especially, this was a huge shift. The idea of casual sex had always felt impossible. Before meeting Lay, I didn’t consider myself a very sexual person, and I had a very idealized and conventional picture of what relationships were supposed to look like.

So when Lay shared that the idea of me being with another man in an MFM threesome turned him on, my brain tried desperately to make it fit into my existing framework.

My thought process went something like this:

If I’m going to have sex with another person, I must need to fall in love first… right?
But can I fall in love with someone other than Lay?
And if I do… does that mean we’re all going to live together?

Yes, my mind felt a little chaotic at the time.

This was also when we first began exploring MFM dynamics. It was exciting, a little nerve-wracking, and full of learning experiences. We had plenty of coffee and dinner dates before I figured out how to move from that public space to our bedroom, from the friendly flirting to a physical connection. Every step forced us to communicate more honestly about what we liked, what we didn’t, and what made us feel safe and connected.

Getting comfortable with the idea of casual sex wasn’t instant for me. It took almost two years of gradual exploration and conversations.

What we eventually realized was that we didn’t want separate experiences.

We wanted to share these experiences together as a couple.

And that realization became the foundation for everything that followed.